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Video TranscriptWelcome to stage one. In this stage, we’re going to talk about understanding the mechanisms behind all fetishes actually, and how they form because if we want to solve any problem, the first step in that process is actually just really defining what that problem is, how it comes about how it develops, where it originates, and also why once we understand the true meaning and the cause behind the fetish, then the solution becomes immediately obvious. So that’s what we’re going to do in this section. It starts with talking about conditioning. Conditioning is one way in which fetishes are known to form and it’s because of this Russian scientist, Pavlov, he was doing some experiments with dogs. And during those experiments, he noticed that the dogs began to salivate in the presence of the lab or system that usually fed them. And Pavlov theorized that those dogs had associated the lab or system with food. So he did an experiment to test this. He started feeding them himself. And every time he fed them, he rang a little bell. So they’d hear the bell, and they’d get food. And after some time of doing this, he decided to just ring the bell without actually giving them any food. And then he measured how much they salivate it. And sure enough, the dogs had come to associate the bell with food. And this became known as classical conditioning. And this is related to fetishes. They found this in the 1960s. They showed a group of men, images, just of naked women, alongside images of boots, and these were just nonsexual boots, they didn’t have a foot fetish or anything. There was just completely non sexual images. And eventually, the men became aroused just by looking at the images of boots all by themselves, they had become conditioned into associating boots with sexual arousal. The point of this is that if you’re exposed to anything, repeatedly, during times when you’re sexually aroused, your brain might come to link that object with sex. It’s very simple. And I can give a really, I think it’s quite a funny example of this. A man grew up in quite a strict Catholic household, where masturbation was a sin and definitely not allowed. So obviously, every time he masturbated, he had to hold the door shut. So he held on to a doorknob. Every time he was sexually aroused. For the first, let’s say five years of his sexual life. Obviously, from this, his brain kind of associated holding on to a doorknob with sexual arousal. So he developed a massive doorknob fetish to the point where he actually kept a box of doorknobs beside his bed, because he couldn’t have sex without them. So what does this mean about this fetish in particular? Well, the thing we can really take from this is actually to do with porn. Because porn and watching porn repeatedly, will condition your brain into associating watching porn with arousal. And what that means is, you will basically kind of need porn more and more. And after a long time of watching porn, what happens is you become desensitized. This is known to happen, you’ll become desensitized to the softcore stuff, and you’ll need increasingly more of a taboo, you’ll need increasingly more hardcore content. And this is one way in which it can lead down the route of, of extremer. Content. Once any fetish has formed, if you then repeatedly get off to that fetish over and over again, your brain will link that with arousal. So the more you associate the Fetish with the arousal, the stronger that association becomes. And that’s one way in which conditioning can play a role in this fetish. Specifically, we’re going to talk about this a little later when we talk about habits, because this is another factor there. The interesting point here is that this is very easily changeable. Just by stopping watching porn, you can kind of remove these associations. And that should definitely be the first step in this process. To Recondition your brain. Try to stop watching porn. Now. It’s not that easy. Once you’ve become conditioned, it does get very hot. We can talk about that later. For now, all you need to know is that conditioning can play a role in the development of fetishes is quite easily changeable through the process of reconditioning. It’s also worth mentioning that, aside from conditioning and aside from what we’re going to talk about next when we go into the subcon Just it’s possible that some fetishes can develop in earlier childhood as a result of isolated experiences. For example, someone with a balloon fetish and there are people with fetishes for balloons. They may have had some sort of noteworthy experience with balloons, whereby their brains have linked that with arousal or sex or even love and affection. So, I want you to think about this and see if you can remember anything in your childhood or in your sexual experiences that may have led to your sexual desires today. If you can’t, don’t worry, because in the next section, we’re going to go into the real core of this fetish
Conditioning – Summary
Ivan Pavlov was doing some experiments with dogs. During those experiments he noticed that the dogs began to salivate in the presence of the lab assistant that usually fed them. Pavlov theorised that the dogs had associated the lab assistant with food, so he did an experiment to test it. Every time he fed them, he rang a bell. They’d hear the bell, they’d get food. After some time doing this, he decided to ring the bell without giving them food and measure how much they salivated. Sure enough, the dogs had come to associate the bell with food. This became known as classical conditioning.
Researchers in the 1960s showed a group of men images of naked women alongside images of boots. Eventually, the men became aroused by the images of boots all by themselves. They had been conditioned into associating boots with sexual arousal. This study suggests your brain is capable of forming sexual associations around random objects even if no arousal impulse was there to begin with. Research in rats found that when rats were trained to mate while wearing a jacket, they found it harder to ejaculate without wearing one. So if you’re exposed to something repeatedly during times when you’re sexually aroused, your brain might come to link that object with sexual desire.
Repeatedly watching porn can train your brain into needing porn to be aroused. Repeatedly watching porn leads to desensitisation to porn. These two factors can lead to you seeking out progressively more hardcore content.
Author(s) || Connor McGonigal
Website || howtostopbeingacuckold.com
Article || 1.1 Conditioning
Date || Between January 27th, 2018 and February 6th, 2020
contributors: ["Connor McGonigal"]