On the Fish in the Sea
Posted in Psychology on May 2, 2024 by foreverliketh.is ‐ 5 min read
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Old man battles with giant blue marlin from his canoe. Made famous from Hemmingway’s Old man and the seaึ by Carey Chenึ via Pixels.ึ
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Como Tu Decรญasึ / Like You Used To Say
Lately, I’ve been thinking about relationships. Probably cause I’ve been seeing this girl. But it ain’t just “romance” I’ve been contemplatin’: family, friends, coworkers, internet folk, the whole kebab, really. But dating (& marriage) is a good jumping-off point for where I wanna take things today.
Courtship is a pretty high-stakes affair. I mean, we shouldn’t be hard on ourselves for our families, right? We sure as hell didn’t pick ’em after all; and alternatives are practically non-existent as a kid. No, family’s just the hand we were dealt. But our lovers? Those are (mostly) on us, yo.
Commitment comes with many a penalty: risk, sacrifice, rigidity; just to name a few. It ain’t a trade to take lightly; I certainly don’t…ึ We want to get it right, we NEED to get it right: The ideal match… And now, more than ever, there’s no shortage of potential partners. “The world is our oyster”, traveler. Naturally then, is it not our fault when we fail to find its pearl?
I Never Knew Youึ
Or at least, that’s one story I imagine the Online “Dating” Market, $3.15 billion in 2024ึ, is selling people. Jesus Christ, HOW btw?! Their profit literally DEPENDS on keeping their customers utilizing the service!ึ Isn’t that more obvious than a pyramid scheme??? But, yea: โซ Just keep swiping. Just keep swiping. Just keep swiping, swiping, swiping. โซึ
Veritasium recently posted a (unsurprisingly) great videoึ on the 37% rule / marriage problemึ / optimal stopping.ึ Can’t recommend it enough. Though, I’d say that’s the absolute maximum (if not a bit over) amount of logic, math and, most certainly, “tech”, that I’d inject into the endeavor. Also, I like to pretend that, if it weren’t for “muh industrial society”ึ, I wouldn’t need this sh*t spelled out for me via a got dam YouTube video. Lol, as my guest, you’re welcome to that cope if you need it too, visitor.
Anyways, do you see where we’re going yet? There IS NO PEARL for us to find. The world ISN’T our oyster. WE’RE THE OYSTERS! We fugging MAKE the pearls. You and I could spend 20 lifetimes swiping our 400 fingers away and I GUARANTEE YOU the best we’ll ever get is Mrs. Krabs!ึ It’s in the commitment, the penalties, the risks, the sacrifices… where the treasure we seek is formed.
Perfect Placesึ
And that holds true for more than just our love quests, stranger. Acquaintances and friends, family (if you’re lucky), coworkers (careful with those). But also: Our hometowns, our cultures, our histories. When we treat these things as replaceable, rejecting others for benign opinions or trivialitiesึ, selling-out our lands and customs for modern opportunities / conveniences / values / homogeny, we betray ourselves. It’s behavior no different than that of our corporate overlords.
So beware, prospective sailor. Despite what our current age would have us believe, its ‘unparalleled choice’ isn’t a life raft; it’s an anchorโa manufactured hindrance, chaining our ships to harbor. It preys on our own fears of the voyage to come, taunting us with assurances that exist solely on the shore, tempting us to turn back at the first sign of discomfort. But overcome we must, for it is only in the ocean’s profundity where our incomparable bonds can be forged to their rightful depths.
Contributors: Ernest Hemingwayึ –> The Old Man and the Sea [#1ึ & #2ึ] | Message in a bottleึ | Tommy Torresึ –> Mar Adentroึ –> El Playlist de Anocheึ | John Bowlbyึ –> Attachment theoryึ | William Shakespeareึ –> The Merry Wives of Windsor [#1ึ & #2ึ] | Jason Mrazึ –> Love Is a Four Letter Wordึ | Timeline of online datingึ –> Online datingึ –> Plenty of Fishึ –> Match Groupึ –> Greg Rosalskyึ | Finding Nemoึ | Franz Thomas Brussึ –> Derek Mullerึ –> Veritasiumึ –> What The Ultimate Study On Happiness Revealsึ –> What Game Theory Reveals About Life, The Universe, and Everythingึ | Ted Kaczynskiึ –> sizeof.catึ | Stephen Hillenburgึ –> SpongeBob SquarePantsึ –> Mr. Krabsึ / Clancy Brownึ –> Pearl Krabsึ / Lori Alanึ | Lordeึ –> Melodramaึ | Hans Christian Andersenึ –> The Little Mermaidึ –> The Little Mermaid (1989 film)ึ –> Alan Menkenึ + Howard Ashmanึ + Samuel E. Wrightึ –> Under the Sea [#1ึ & #2ึ] –> Kiss the Girl [#1ึ & #2ึ] | George R. R. Martinึ –> A Song of Ice and Fireึ –> Game of Thronesึ –> Fire & Bloodึ –> House of the Dragonึ –> Matt Smithึ –> Daemon Targaryenึ | Kintsugiึ
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Como Tu Decรญas / Like You Used To Say
